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Updated on Wednesday, February 26

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QUESTION: For couples out there, do you guys split the costs evenly?

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    1. Ok, lets hear some testimony for asian couples

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  2. I usually snag the bills before he can get to them or I refuse to let him pay for groceries sometimes.

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  3. I'm a student still and he's working full-time (his debts have been paid off), so he ends up paying more often than I do. It's probably a 40/60 split right now.

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  4. He never lets me pay, unless he's short on money. So I remember how much he's been paying and get him something he needs/wants.

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  5. No, I pay about 80-90%.
    My valentines gift to him was just under 250 (Ticket to Armin (BF's favourite DJ) + Prepaid Hotel: Yeah I know I'm a rock star girlfriend). He got me flowers.

    This is slightly out of the norm, but out of my 5 closest girlfriends, all same situation. Girls pay 70-80%, but the guys all make a lot of effort day to day. (One makes his GF dinner everyday, one drives his GF to work, another arranged a horse drawn carriage ride for their valentines day, love notes, sweet little gestures, carrying books.)

    Some stuff money can't buy, I don't think the split really matters so long as you treat each other well. I would take a guy that takes care of me when I'm sick and talks to me when I'm stressed over a rich guy that would pay for my shoes and Smartphone.

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    1. This was me until I got cheated on.

      Now my policy is 50/50 split. Period. I dislike being taken advantage of.

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    2. you sound like a fat person.

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  6. The first two years we dated it was 75-25 (for guy), now it's 50-50

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  7. 50/50. He'll pay for one meal, I'll pay for the next. Or, we split the bill. If he's insistent on paying for date nights, I remember and buy him some things he needs and so on.

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  8. Seeing these posts I realize I should ask my gf to pitch in a little more, but really don't know how. lol

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    1. If it helps, show her this post to at least start the conversation.

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  9. I usually grab the cheque (guy) unless its been a bunch in a row and she seems like she's annoyed by it. Just the way I was raised. Also, spending money on someone is literally the easiest way to show affection (if you have the money).

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    1. My kinda guy. Keep it up :)

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    2. omg you sound so awesome :)
      Your gf must be sooo lucky :P

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    3. Oh god I'd hate to be your girlfriend if spending money is how you define showing affection for someone. A guy can spend money on a girl and not give a shit about her. My friends ex boyfriend bought her $300+ purses and jewelry at least once a month and cheated on her just as much.

      Spending money on someone can be one of the most insincere and lazy ways to try to show someone you care.

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  10. Honestly, I could do with some of the girls who commented here. Too bad, you are already in a relationship. I think twice before asking anyone out just because I don't have money to pay for 2 people all the time.
    - A guy

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  11. My current gf pays more often than I do but it used to be more equal. I rarely split the bill with someone I'm dating though, it's more I pay full then some other time she will pay full.

    She also buys way more gifts for me than I do for her but the thing is a lot of the gifts are clothing/accessories which is mainly because she just loves to shop. Like too much.

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  12. Right now he is, but its mostly because he makes more as of right now. I would spend the world on him if I could

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  13. Females who are independent and capable of splitting the cost (and insist on it) are super sexy.

    It's slightly off topic, but I could never marry a stay at home mom. I just wouldn't respect her.

    In this case it's the same idea. Equality is super hot.

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    1. Her choice of wanting to be a stay-at-home mom deserves the same respect as her choice to work... THAT'S what equality is.

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    2. No, you want to know what equality is? being able to respect a stay at home mom as much as a stay at home dad ( unless they have a valid excuse). So If you can't respect one, you shouldn't respect the other either.

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    3. @13b I never said stay-at-home dad's should be disrespected? People should be able to do what they want, I was just addressing 13s view that you can't respect a stay-at-home mom. The same rules apply for father's as well.

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    4. 13, you're a moron. One of the parents has to stay home. Otherwise you're going to pop out a neglected kid that hates their parents. If you actually have your kid's best interests at heart then it's either you or your spouse staying home. Or preferably both of you if you're rich. If you don't want your spouse putting their children first in their life then YOU have to do it. And if that was your choice, would you lose respect for yourself?
      And more importantly, WHY? What is so disrespectable about choosing to make your baby a priority in your life? If you decide to have a baby in the first place then it's not even really a choice; it's your responsibility as a parent to make them top priority. That child is the future and should be treated as such. The only reason I could think of why someone would disrespect their spouse for caring for their child without working would be if you consider making money to feed the baby more respectable or important than nurturing the baby. Loving the baby. Teaching it. Playing with it. Being there.
      There is obviously a fair amount of money needed to support a child, but this is why most couples tend to have one parent work and one care for the baby. And if you're really proactive you'll make sure you have a good stash of money saved up before having a kid so that you can be around them as much as physically possible. You can't just take out the caring for the baby part. Why the hell would you even HAVE a baby if neither of the parents want to take care of it? Trophy kid? Best case scenario would be that both of you make enough money to hire a good nanny that'll raise your kid for you, but probably not in the way that you would have. And a kid that grows up with absent parents will become an absent child to them in return. They will want very little to do with you if you didn't make the effort to be with them in their youth. You will also find that if you don't spend time with your child and get to know their character when they're young, they will become reluctant to give you any sort of glimpse into their personality later on. They will willingly drift away from you.
      Bottom line: If you supply your kid with money and not love, you're not going to get any love in return, but they'll gladly take the money and run.

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    5. Oh, I forgot to add:
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUwjNBjqR-c

      When you comin home, son?
      I don't know when
      But we'll get together then
      I know we'll have a good time then

      And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
      He'd grown up just like me
      My boy was just like me

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  14. (girl here) When I was in my past long-term relationship with a guy the issue never came up, we just automatically paid for ourselves. If I was in another relationship now, just for the sake of convenience I would alternate paying so the bill doesn't have to be split, but I think it helps to be more financially responsible for yourself,

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  15. I always try to pay, its not because of some gender thing where the guy should pay, I just like paying for stuff when I am out with friends/my gf. Makes me feel good.

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