OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Tuesday, February 25

#5979

QUESTION: Does no really mean no, when you're half naked gyrating your ass and while my hand is on your hip?

42 comments

  1. Are you fucking stupid?

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    1. I don't think so, he makes a pretty valid point

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    2. Are you kidding? His point is completely invalid. No always means no.

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    3. I am not endorsing rape, but the fact that she is grinding with me in the most erotic fashion ever means a) she has bad judgement or b) she thinks I am attractive or c) a little bit of both. Its up to me as a guy who does want some to convince her to take it to the extra mile.

      I know that sounds pathetic, but it really is what goes on in a guy's head at that point.

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    4. 1c: So she can't think you're attractive without also wanting to have sex with you that evening? How are those two not mutually exclusive??

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    5. Its great if you think I am attractive, but if you don't want to hit the hay, then dont initiate physical contact at all.

      Its like you led me on, and hung me out to dry. Its like me going out with a girl, and then I start sleeping with another person.I like you, but that doesn't mean I can't like others.

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  2. No ALWYAS means no. Idiot comments like this are how rape happens, and why victim blaming is still such prevalent problem. YOU should have the self control to accept someones choices. just because someone is dancing provocatively, or wearing something provocative, is not an invitation to you to disrespect their right to say no.

    grinding on you at a club? no still means no.
    making out in the car and go in for a boob grab? no still means no.
    married with three kids? no still means no.
    in the middle of having sex? NO STILL MEANS NO.

    no matter what the context, who the other person is to you, or how 'clear' you think the signals are, everyone has the right to stop a sexual encounter at any time, without having to give an excuse or a reason, other than that they said no. this goes for both men and women. any explicit statement that the other person wants to stop what is happening, must always be respected.

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    1. +100
      inb4 mra shitstorm

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    2. wanna know "why victim blaming is still such prevalent problem"

      because of girls having sex with someone only to then say no... wtf

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    3. Don't be an idiot. Sure they might have agreed to have sex, but one persons idea of sex doesn't always match up with the sexual partner. Some people like it rough, some don't.

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  3. If you're a guy, just imagine if you were in this situation:

    You're at a club, you've had a lot to drink, and your inhibitions are lowered. You dance with a girl and go back to her place. You start to fool around, and she ties you up and starts to put on a strap-on. You tell her you're not into that, and she uses it on you anyway because you had been "asking for it" hours earlier at the club.

    Did no mean no?

    (the answer is no meant no because it always means know you piece of shit and the MODs are all awful shitty people for posting this.

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    1. As a guy, if she uses lube. I...I'd be ok with it.

      You, my dear, underestimate the male sex drive.

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  4. NO MEANS NO, PERVERT!

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  5. And the award for the most awkward ASK of the month goes to...

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  6. I find it funny that girls are super conscious of the way the look, and are very self aware, but for some strange reason they can shake their ass in front of you for 20 minutes and get freaked out if you want to dance.

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    1. Just because they're shaking their ass doesn't mean they're doing it for your sake.

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    2. Females don't follow any sort of logic mate. Don't hold them to your logical male standards, because your head will hurt.

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  7. No still means no in this situation (and in all situations). The girl might be turned on (which explains the gyrating) but she's made the decision that she doesn't want to go farther than that. Respect her decision.

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  8. thank you 3! a perfect example of the situation in gender reversal.

    Just because a woman chooses to embrace and flaunt her sexuality, does not give others the right to take that as an invitation to rape her. why should a woman who enjoys being desired by the opposite sex be vilified? just because you enjoy being flirted with or admired, does not mean you want anything more than that. OP, take your bruised ego and gtfo.

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  9. Yes. I have called time-outs on sex in the middle before because what we were doing suddenly started being (physically) painful. It would have been very traumatizing for me if my partner hadn't honored that "stop, no, ouch".

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  10. I think op was definitely joking guys

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  11. No, i don't think he was. And even if it wasn't meant entirely seriously, i know many guys who (even if they didn't say it out loud) think the same way. Comments like this aren't funny, even when they're meant as a joke. Take your head out of your ass, and put yourself in the other persons shoes. Here's a great example:

    http://www.upworthy.com/a-french-film-showing-men-what-being-a-woman-feels-like-kinda?c=ufb1

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    1. I don't speak French you damn commie. I speak American.

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    2. Ok.. so you're telling us men that we have to be able to decipher all these signals ALL WHILE we need to take certain things as they are? I've dated and had sex with enough women to know that some say no as a way to pull you in.

      No DEFINITELY does not always mean no. 9) is a good example as there is no room for miscommunication (unless you guys were having a S&M kind of sex) but when a girl does what OP witnessed, what the fuck are we supposed to do? Acknowledge the fact that we might have meat on the table or that she's just playing around? When the action and the intentions are contradicting, is it really our (men's) fault if we "misread" the situation?

      You women think you [girls] have it so hard, but the reality is that we are subjected to way more unwritten rules and BS than you think.

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    3. 11.b, glossing over the 'meat on the table' comment, it is perfectly fine to misread a situation, that is not the problem. After misreading the situation, you will be told 'no'. The problem arises when this 'no' is not respected.

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  12. Umm wanting to dance with you does not mean she wants to have sex with you. They are two completely different things. Even making out. I've made out with a lot of guys but did not want to go to the next level. The only indicator she truly wants to have sex is if she says she wants to have sex. Quite often people want to have fun dancing, but dont want to have sex. Separate the two. They are not the same at all.

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    1. As a guy, that shit is misleading and annoying. That is basically the same thing as coming into our room wearing lingerie but saying that you only want to talk and that you wanted to try it on. If you don't think that these two things are fundamentally the same, then you don't know how logic works for men and, thus, you're a bitch for leading us on.

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    2. So if a woman comes into your room to show off her new lingerie, you will rape her and/or call her a bitch?

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  13. To all the female haters here, Imma quote my boy Dave Chapelle:

    “The girl says "Oh uh-uh, wait a minute! Wait a minute! Just because I'm dressed this way does not make me a whore!" Which is true, Gentlemen, that is true. Just because they dress a certain way doesn't mean they are a certain way. Don't even forget it. But ladies, you must understand that is fucking confusing. It just is. Now that would be like me, Dave Chappelle, the comedian, walking down the street in a cop uniform. Somebody might run up on me saying, "Oh, thank God. Officer, help us! Come on. They're over here. Help us!" "Oh-hoh! Just because I'm dressed this way does not make me a police officer!" See what I mean? All right, ladies, fine. You are not a whore. But you are wearing a whore's uniform.”

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    1. This is actually a good point. As much as I agree that no means no, females need to also realize the social context of their actions.

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    2. Women use convenient excuses.. refer to my 12.a comment. Fucking annoying how you can distinctively tell who the women and the overly PC chodes are here.

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  14. For the sake of my sanity I'm going to assume this is a lame joke post.

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  15. girl here.
    this topic is very very very controversial. I agree: No definitely means no. But honestly, girls dont always play fair.
    Take this scenario: You've stripped down to your birthday suit, you've gone down on your fella and he's right there, about to give it to you nice and slow, and out of nowhere "NO! STOP! I CHANGED MY MIND!!"... the fuck?

    with that specific scenario, the guy is expected AND SHOULD stop 100%, otherwise its considered rape. I AGREE!
    But girls, seriously, what the hell are you playing at?? Make up your damn mind before crossing several red lines or points of no return.

    I don't think its fair AT ALL to sexually imply things when your intention isn't to go that far. It doesn't give guys the right to rape you (that's not what I'm saying), but it doesn't mean you're in the right either. If you're grinding on some guy, half naked, while his hands are alright with you, I'm not surprised he thinks you want the D.

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    1. We need more women like you in this world.

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    2. You are the kind of girl I (and every bro) hope to marry.

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    3. I can't say I've ever heard of it going down like this...ever. If anything it would go like this:

      "Please baby, just jerk me off me a little"
      "Come on, just a little tongue. I showered and everything"
      "Why not get naked? I mean, you've seen mine haven't you?"
      "Come ooooon baby, I love you"
      "Now let me have sex with you."

      "WHAT!? NO??! You got naked and blew me and now this!?"

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    4. Girl here:
      thank you for phrasing exactly what I was thinking. Being clothed or acting protectively never excuses rape, and girls/guys should ALWAYS respect the fact that no means they must stop. But pulling a 180 is upsetting and unfair. If I'm having some sexy time with a guy and he stops halfway through, of course I'll respect it but I'll be frustrated.

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  16. Here's a plot twist: How do we know that this is a guy? Ladies can be just as...well, crazy.

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    1. I like how it was immediately interpreted one way. Which means OP has a point and people know whats up.

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