OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Monday, February 24

#5969

QUESTION: Here is the deal: I have just started seeing this girl, but I have started to really fall for her roomate. Is there any way I can make a switch, or is it abandon ship situation?

17 comments

  1. Only if she doesn't know her roommate well and you don't have friends in common with either can you switch I think.

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  2. They are good friends, and I have no mutual friends with them

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  3. I would just abandon ship, sorry. If they're good friends like you say they'll probably both hate you if you try to switch. Girl code and all that. (I'm female, for reference)

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  4. Abandon ship. Even if you succeed and start dating the roommate, you'll end up being a massive prick. Plus everytime you go over to her place you'll have to see the one you were originally seeing.. awkward

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  5. How long are they going to be roommates? Maybe you could wait until they aren't anymore.

    How strong are your feelings and why do you think the roommate is a better possibility? What precisely do you have to lose if you go for it?

    It's probably worth thinking it through more carefully and getting to know them both better first.

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  6. I don't know, its just she is so much more pleasant to be around with. Its hard to describe I guess. I just wish I had met her before.

    Maybe I'll just ride it out and see where it takes me

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  7. There's a Seinfeld episode about this exact situation, their solution is to suggest a threesome, then your girl is upset with you and leaves you, but she tells her roommate who can't help but be flattered and intrigued.

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  8. This is a Seinfeld episode. Nice try.

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  9. When you're over at the girl's house, sneak into her room mate's room and steal her underwear so you can jerk off to it later.

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    1. Or set up a hidden camera for their bathroom. Two birds with one stone!

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    2. ^Risky, but I like it.

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  10. i am guessing the wave of good ideas is gone. OP sounds like a douche though so its ok i guess.

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  11. I believe it's called menage-a-trois...

    mmm that is a wild idea!

    I can't be an orgy guy!!

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  12. You already answered your own question OP. You clearly like the roommate enough to dwell on the improbable chance that she'll reciprocate in spite of your dating her good friend.

    You might think you sticking with your current girl is virtuous b/c you are sparing her feelings. Nah man, that's just weak. Let her go, but tell her the real reason. Don't give a shit if she goes mental and badmouths you to her friend. Then, approach the girl you really like and have her make her own decision. You'd be surprised.

    DO NOT try both at once, that's mad disrespect.

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