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Updated on Wednesday, February 19

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QUESTION: Have you ever been so hurt by getting dumped that you never thought you can love again? How is it going now? How long did it take to feel normal again?

11 comments

  1. Yes. I got over it :)
    Took a few months probably, but I started seeing someone else, which helped.

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  2. I'm still not over it. (and still single) But it's only been 3 and a half months. Not sure if I'll ever feel a connection like that ever again...

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  3. It took me about a year, but then again the situation was super complicated. There was cheating involved and sexual assault and a lot of anger, so I think it was mostly the bittnerness that held me back. You hopefully aren't in the same situation.

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  4. After 2.5 years in a manipulative and abusive relationship, I never thought I would be able to love or trust another person. But, sure enough, time does heal things. I met my love 6 months later and we have been together for 7 years now. And it is wonderful :)

    (I am 27 btw..)

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  5. Just give me a reason
    Just a little bit's enough
    Just a second we're not broken just bent
    And we can learn to love again
    It's in the stars
    It's been written in the scars on our hearts
    We're not broken just bent
    And we can learn to love again

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  6. Yes OP. Yes. Oh my god yes. You will be happy again. You will feel that connection with someone else. I 100% guarantee it.

    You can speed up this process by cutting off contact entirely. I was such a sap and didn't do this. Took me a year+.. didn't start feeling better till after contact was permanently cut.

    In an infinitely happier/better relationship now. But I was happy before that too.

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  7. No, I am a man, and these emotions have no control over me. All I need is food and beer. and the occasional biddy

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  8. Yes :) I was with my ex for 5 years when he broke up with me. I was absolutely devastated and feeling like you are. I am now dating this amazing guy and am happier than I've ever been. Good Luck!

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  9. To quote how I met your mother:

    Ted: You start to recover when you meet the person who gets you back in the game

    Lily: Half the length of the relationship.
    Marshall: One week for every month you were together.
    Robin: Exactly 10,000 drinks, however long that takes.
    Barney: You can’t measure something like this in time; there’s a series of steps—from her bed to the front door. Bam! Out of there. Neeeeext!

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  10. It's been three months since my ex broke up with me, and that I devoted my entire self in the relationship, and it still kind of hurts now and hard to let her go because of all the great memories that we had. I've tried to distract myself with activities to cheer me up, but at the end of the day, i still feel the experience would be so much better if the one I loved was there to share it with. I always think how long will this pain last and when would I exactly know I am prepared to begin a new relationship.

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  11. a couple months, basically until yoga pants season started again

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