OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Thursday, February 13

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QUESTION: Are there any young kinky people at UW? I'm on fetlife, but the events i've gone to are mostly older people. i wish i was gay instead of kinky, at least you can go into a bar and tell a girl you like girls without it being *that* outside of the norm. I cant exactly go into a club and ask a cute guy if he would beat me till i cry...
not to mention that i can't tell any of my friends about it due to the incredible stigma surrounding it, and the possibility that if i was outed i could lose my job :(

13 comments

  1. same question! sub girl here, no idea how to find others even just to be friends with. fetlife seems pretty grim

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  2. I'm an "in-the-closet" masochist and I honestly just stumbled onto my current boyfriend who I found out was a sadist after we started dating. I'd have no idea what to do otherwise.

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  3. male here. recommend you just try guys. You'll find one eventually. If they can't be cool with what you're in to, fuck em.

    I'd be down for some kinky shit, so why wouldn't others? :)

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    1. ^you say that, but could you really beat the crap out of someone, choke them, and leave them with bruises and welts then have a normal relationship. I haven't had anyone ask me to do this but I have a vivid imagination and man, I could never do that.

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    2. 3 here: I could leave them red, but not bruised. That's called, "this person may or may not have a mental disorder that needs to be checked".

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    3. Just because you aren't into something, doesn't mean it is a sign of mental instability. You can see why it is hard to find truly good kink partners - as soon as ideas start getting slightly too intense, people like you start claiming 'pathology!'. Keep it safe&consensual and all's good.

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    4. @3b I am not OP, and I got lucky to find a boyfriend who enjoys similar things as me, but people like YOU are part of the reason why it is so hard to find someone. So many people say "Oh I am down for kinky shit" and than judge you for being into something that is too much for you personally.

      I LIKE when someone leaves bruises on me. I don't have a mental disorder, it is just part of what I am into sexually. If you don't like leaving bruises thats fine, but don't say that other people have a mental disorder for enjoying those things.

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  4. Yes! We are around - I know of several people. Some I found out through "Never have I ever", some through late-night drunken talks, and some through non-drunken talks.

    I thought there was a lot of stigma attached to it too, but my friends and I got comfortable enough with each other to say it. I think you'd be surprised with how many people are at least a little bit into it. I haven't talked to anyone who straight-up is against it yet, but I have found a few who are really in to it too. :)

    Good luck!

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    1. And to rest your fears a bit more: one of them I found out while we were at Pearl together. I straight up just asked for fun, and then it turns out he is into it. :)

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  5. ... and all the weirdos come out

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  6. Hey OP, what do you look like. If you sound attractive enough for my taste, leave some way I can find you. Then I'll find a way to beat your ass, IF THATS WHAT YOU WANT.

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  7. 21 year old guy on fetlife and goes to uw. Yea I've never been to a munch but it just seems like a place for young women and older creepy men. Fetlife is pretty grim but there are some nice people on there. You probably don't what to give out your username, so here's mine: jstlookin4xxx.

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  8. Check this out: http://mathnews.uwaterloo.ca/wordpress/?p=10274

    Highlights:
    If you’re new I suggest coming out to a munch (gathering of people in a socially normal setting where people can talk about kink)
    Suggested: Tri-NG (Tri-Cities version of The Next Generation munch, explicitly for people under 35 years old). It’s a small group, and quite newbie friendly. They meet the 4th Wednesday of each month at the Fox and the Fiddle pub in uptown Waterloo at 7:30 PM. It’s held in the pool room at the back.
    There's Tri-NG group as well as “The Kinksters of Kitchener-Waterloo, Guelph, Cambridge, Ontario”.

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