OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Tuesday, February 11

#5902

QUESTION: I'm a 21-year-old female. and I find the idea of oral sex (giving and receiving) unappealing. I don't think I could ever do it. Do any other girls feel the same way?

38 comments

  1. I feel bad for you. Getting oral is amazing. Giving oral and pleasing your man is a great feeling too.

    - a girl

    ReplyDelete
  2. I feel the same way. I find the act of oral sex very derogatory so I can actually never orgasm.

    - Coming from a guy.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I have to disagree with this. Oral sex is only derogatory if you buy into societies ideas of slut shaming and telling women it is. If both partners respect one another and enjoy the act I do not understand how that an be derogatory.

      Delete
  3. Yeah I'm a girl and I don't really like getting oral sex that much, it just feels weird to me. I find giving oral sex unappealing too but I would do it if the guy wanted it, just because it's nice to make your partner happy.

    ReplyDelete
  4. I absolutely love doing it and love swallowing. Knowing that my boyfriend loves it too doesn't hurt. As for receiving, it's pretty mind-blowing, but I'm super careful about being clean down there, to the point I get a little nervous when he surprises me with it.

    I don't think there's anything wrong with you for not liking giving/receiving oral. If you were trying to change that, flavoured lube or whipped cream on him might help if it's a taste thing?

    ReplyDelete
  5. Same for me... I don't like receiving oral and find whenever I do get it, it really does nothing for me. I know a lot of people argue that maybe the guys "just didn't know what they're doing" but truthfully I just don't find it pleasurable. It is a little bit... but nothing I could ever feel crazy about or orgasm from.

    Giving oral turns me off sometimes but other times turns me on. Tbh though most of the time I just hate the smell and taste.... and way more willing and into giving oral in the shower. I don't know... to put it bluntly, some days I don't mind having a dick in my mouth and other days, not so much!

    ReplyDelete
  6. Sounds like your guy just needs to clean his dick more often.

    ReplyDelete
  7. I give oral at least once a day (love it) and I can honestly say receiving is not the best. I get really self-conscious and I can't seem to relax. It's only good when I'm high.

    ReplyDelete
  8. if it's really an issue, you both should hop into the shower so you're squeeky clean. honestly, head is the tops

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Agreed, always tops. I may just be lucky in my partners but even if thing's aren't fresh out the shower it still takes maximum 30seconds before its all your own spit anyway. If that makes you squeamish you should think carefully about what sex is and realize that its all the same jam.

      Delete
  9. That sucks for your boyfriend. No pun intended

    ReplyDelete
  10. I am reading a lot of girls saying oral is not pleasurable because they feel nervous or awkward having someone down there.
    I feel for you ladies! Oral is AWESOME.

    Guys: learn how to do it properly. Please.

    ReplyDelete
  11. Same here! 21 y/o female. The idea just repulses me. Glad to hear I'm not the only one.

    ReplyDelete
  12. Any guy who has experienced good oral probably won't want a girlfriend who doesn't do it. If you want to live the way you like, COOL, but the choice of potential boyfriends has just been reduced significantly

    ReplyDelete
  13. 13 is a dumbass. Its comments like that, which repulses girls away from oral because they think its something they are doing "for their guy". Or something they have to do to keep a guy. So they hate it even more inside.

    You should give oral only if you enjoy it yourself. And I believe almost everyone will start enjoying it if they fix up how they think about it. Remove the societal connotations behind it. At the end of the day, its just something that produces orgasms.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. So if a girl doesn't give oral, the chances of her finding a guy who stays with her ARE NOT reduced?

      Delete
    2. (14) I don't know. But posting that fact is still fear mongering girls into giving head. Read half the comments on here "21yr female, also don't like head, RELIEVED to see others like me" Any girls in today's society that don't like oral have probably already noticed that guys treat them differently. So I am sure they have it bad enough as it is.

      Delete
  14. I like giving, but I'm not a fan of receiving. :/

    ReplyDelete
  15. I love giving oral because I like the feeling of domination. The fact that I am in complete control of him, mental and physical, drives me crazy. I also love that I'm giving him pleasure.
    Obviously it's different for everyone but I myself really enjoy having him in my mouth and I like his jizz. His cock is an aesthetic marvel too.

    And I like me some tongue down there too (;

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Couldn't have said it better.
      - another girl who enjoys giving and receiving oral.

      Delete
  16. I love giving, but i dislike receiving because i can't orgasm from it. i'd much rather be fingered since i'm a squirter.
    i've been with some guys in the past who really like giving, and are really good at it, so in that case i'm okay with it. it never feels bad, it's more just that nothing will come of it (no pun intended haha) but i'll never request it over regular penetration or fingering.

    i guess my question to you op, is why do you find it so unappealing? is it that you find it derogatory? that you're a bit of a germaphobe and are afraid it will be dirty? or is it the social stigma that surrounds it?
    I agree with 14, people get too wrapped up in societal pressures about sexuality, and sexual acts in general. If you just genuinely dislike it after having tried it a few times, that's one thing. If it's because you're allowing social stigmas to dictate your actions, then perhaps it's time to take a hard look at yourself, and reevaluate how you look at sex and your own sexuality.

    - Female

    ReplyDelete
  17. If you don't know how to eat out a chick, check this out...lol..
    http://www.upworthy.com/too-many-women-don-t-have-fun-in-bed-maybe-it-s-because-their-partners-never-took-this-class-re2-6b-2?c=ufb1

    ReplyDelete
  18. Guy here, I like to give oral to my gf, but I am neutral about getting it. If a she truly wants to, then sure, but I won't be let down if not.

    I say gf specifically because I really don't like hooking up with someone I am not in a relationship with.

    ReplyDelete
  19. I didn't like receiving it with my first boyfriend cuz he didn't know what he was doing. Subsequent boyfriends have been much better at it!

    ReplyDelete
  20. Getting oral is the best thing ever

    ReplyDelete
  21. I only come with oral therefore I love it

    - girl

    ReplyDelete
  22. How does it feel knowing your boyfriend will have a better time with anyone else? Any guy in his right mind would find you ridiculous. What's hotter than being in between a girls legs? You should feel the same way

    Sounds like a libido problem imo. In the heat of the moment it should turn you on. Get a hormone panel from your doc

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I agree with the first part of this. Oral is such a fun part of sex! I'm a girl, and i would be SO upset if I found out my significant other didn't like to receive or give oral.

      I love giving and receiving. There's something really fun about getting on your knees as soon as he walks in the door or surprising him in the morning with oral. It wouldn't be the same.

      Delete
    2. 23 and 23a, you're both judgmental pricks.

      Delete
    3. At 23a.. Ugh. Wish my girlfriend did that.

      Delete
    4. 23c, have you ever told her you'd like that?

      Delete
  23. I don't know about this, alot of girls I have met, "give" head because its the "nice" thing to do after I went down for like 15 minutes straight (usually I love every second of this, and when I think about it it gives me a fuzzy feeling). But they only do it because its nice, not because they want to. Just my 2 cents

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yeah, but not everything you do in a relationship you do because it pleases you, you do it because it makes your partner happy. It's not much different from seeing a crappy movie with your SO cause they want to, or hanging out with that one friend of theirs you don't like. You suck it up because you like them, and unless you find it abhorrent, it's not much more than an inconvenience.

      Delete
  24. wow. waterloo girls are horny creatures. and yet when i walk around campus i can never tell. jesus fuck christ.
    oh yeah oral is fun, just make sure you both respect each other, and are clean. i shower twice a day and so does she, i significantly clean and so is she.

    ReplyDelete
  25. Receiving it doesn't do anything for me. It feels ticklish and weird. I usually don't like to give, but occasionally I feel like it. Very rarely though.

    ReplyDelete
  26. I don't mid giving it but my bf won't kiss me on my lips after. It pisses me off.

    ReplyDelete