OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Monday, February 10

#5899

QUESTION: How long is it alright for a man to cry for after getting dumped?

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  1. As long as you need to. And if people are judgmental about it like 1, they're not real friends and you should ignore them.

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  2. As long as you need but for your own pride, talk it out with your friends but keep the crying to yourself. If you wan't to speed up the process, try turning that sadness into anger and focus on all the shitty aspects of that person. It's definitely not the high road, but it works.

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  3. The best way to get over a girl is to have another one under you.

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  4. 100% normal to cry.
    And don't listen to the bull about trying to hide it. If you are having a hard time, talk to a close friend. If you don't feel they can provide the support you need, talk to a family member or counselor. No need to feel ashamed about having emotions.

    And don't listen to #3 - anger solves nothing.

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    1. I did say it wasn't the high road.

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    2. I know. I am just suggesting he doesn't even consider that path as an opinion.

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  5. what? there's a time limit? cry it out.. because if you suppress it, it will only come back to bite you. What you resist, persists.

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  6. Hiding your emotions isn't very manly.
    Also, assessing everything you do on whether or not other people will think it's manly enough isn't very manly.
    Caring about the opinions of strangers isn't manly.

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    1. wow why don't you two go rub each others dicks

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    2. Sure thing, 7b. Is it cool if we join you and 1 while you give each other brojobs?

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    3. Sure, is it gay if I close my eyes and pretend you're a hot girl going down on me?

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    4. I am a girl. Feel free to pretend I'm hot though.

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    5. I'm sure you're sexy

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    6. That escalated from rude to flattering quite quickly.

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    7. Any chances of getting laid amirite 7g?

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    8. Not the same person. Just being nice

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    9. Oh, well thank you anyway! That's a nice sentiment, but I would withhold your assessment until you know what I look like. I could be two ducks in a person costume and you would never know the difference.

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    10. Woah, don't think so lowly of your self. Who doesn't like ducks? Geese on the other hand..

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    11. I'm loving this thread. Thanks for making my day people.

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  7. As long as it take dude

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  8. I know you guys are trying to be nice but sometimes tough love is the best advice. I personally feel zero time. But if you posted this question, then you're definitely over the limit.

    And I am not just saying that because I am trying to act tough like most guys online. I have been through tough breakups. This is just what I believe. Crying is weakness pouring out of your body. Fuck that weakness.

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  9. For you and for all the men out there, here you go:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFoBaTkPgco

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  10. For me its zero time, it might be different for you. The only thing I'd consider in this kind of thing is what you're sad about. In most cases, we cry because we're sorry for ourselves and that gets you no-where. For me after a breakup, crying is like alcohol. It helps dull the edge but don't indulge too much because you're only harming yourself.

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  11. Guess what? Men are not allowed to cry. PERIOD.
    Men should never cry because they have to show "the world" that they're strong, will-powered, and full of valour.

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    1. I kinda agree that guys shouldn't cry except in moments of extreme emotion, but for some reason I can tell your fucked in the head. "Strong, will-powered, and full of valour?"

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    2. I think they are being super cool and sarcastic because the "this is what "man up" does to boys" videos are hip right now. People don't realize that being any way because its popular is weak. To quote Community "either way, you're doing it for them. Thats what's weak."

      "You just wrinkled my brain!"

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    3. Agreed, 12b. There's a growing trend in advertising right now to portray products as "manly" that has weak-minded men jumping on the bandwagon like no tomorrow. They can literally call anything manly and people will buy into it out of insecurity. Remember those Old Spice commercials? "Look at your man, now back at me, look at my muscles, and my horse, oh I'm sipping brandy with a leather-bound book, don't I just make you want to smell like our new chemical slurry? Buy Old Spice" And self-conscious guys flock to that kind of shit because they drop buzzwords to make you feel like you're the big masculine guy you wish you were and you need the tough kind of deodorant for your dominant alpha armpits. It's all bullshit, designed to provide insecure men with a quick does of self-validation every time you they use Old Spice.
      The only reason someone would ever drop the words "manly" or "alpha" on you is when they're trying to tell you what to do. They're either selling you something or trying to make you act in a way they consider ideal because their pride is too fragile to cope with the concept of men being regular human beings with emotions. Either way, like 12b said, you're doing it for them, not for you. If your true interest is self-improvement, being dominant or being a leader (what I feel people really mean by 'manly') then the first step is to stop caring about what other people have to say. Including me. But most especially the derp-fest idiots like 12 and 1 that parrot off "manliness catchphrases" from their favourite brands or Maddox to make themselves feel superior.

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    4. http://www.upworthy.com/theres-something-absolutely-wrong-with-what-we-do-to-boys-before-they-grow-into-men

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    5. ^Yup, real men base their behavior on upworthy posts.

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  12. 4 is right. Get out there. You'll feel better. Moping around isn't going to help.

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  13. haha loser. I cry in the stink.

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  14. cry until you get it in again

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  15. cry until you get it in again

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