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Updated on Saturday, February 1

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QUESTION: Why is it so hard to find a BF at Waterloo? I admit I have a type (tall comic book nerds) but I expected better...

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  1. I feel you. Seems impossible to find a boyfriend at uw.

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  2. Maybe you're just ugly, or too entitled, or both?

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  3. iktf. Too many guys just wanting sex and not actual relationships!

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    1. preach it gf!

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    2. I am looking for an actual relationship yet I can't seem to find a girl who is :(

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  4. I just want a qt 3.14 bf

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    1. tfw no qt3.14 a v e r a g e korean gf

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    2. lolololol +1
      plssss

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  5. I thought comic book nerds died out after the 90s?


    I wish there were more artsy/cultural girls at Waterloo... there's a lot of really nice girls at Waterloo but I find a lot of them to be boring

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    1. Rather than "complicated" artsy hipsters? Let me tell you from experience, there is nothing more boring than a girl you thinks she's super interesting. "Cultural" isn't even a thing someone can be (or can't be, depending on how you look at it).

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    2. Sorry, I don't mean to sound elitist or anything I just don't know how else to classify the type of girl I get along well with. By cultural I guess what I'm really trying to say is that they want to see whats our there in terms of local bands, alternative cinema, and things like that. Most of the girls I meet at Waterloo aren't really into that kind of stuff. Then again, I meet most girls at parties.

      I'm sure that the girls at Waterloo are just as sophisticated as the girls I meet back home/at other uni's, but I think it's in a different form that I'm not used to.

      I'm a small town white guy.. I don't find many points of connection (except for on a superficial level) with a lot of girls from the GTA

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    3. I get where you're coming from. I personally like to read and go to the AGO when I have time, but it's been hard finding a guy with similar interests. Not only that, but trying to find someone with similar taste in music is even more of a disaster. This may be in part due to the fact that most (read: all) guys I meet are in CS.

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    4. I think we could be friends, you and I.

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  6. ... So how tall are we talking? I'm 5'10" but my hair makes me 6' easily ;)

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    1. I'm 5'11", very broad shoulders (I can't sit beside someone on the bus very easily), but not really into comic books, but I bet I can make you change your type.

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  7. Switch to Engineering. I've got my pick of the litter.

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    1. Yeah... and they're all runts. As they say, "the odds are good but the goods are odd." nty.

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    2. Whoa... this so accurately describes 95% of my class

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  8. Where do I find a gf? How/where do I meet people like you OP?

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  9. This thread makes my brain hurt. I sincerely hope none of your ever find a genuine and honest relationship since you feel so entitled to your 'pick of the litter', and you insult people's appearances when they don't satisfy your mating criteria.
    @ 7a - I doubt any of those 'runts' would want a slice of pompous bitch anyway.
    A curse on you and all your families.

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    1. Someone's butthurt because he can't get laid...

      Perhaps if you grew up you'd find this easier. I don't want a bum bf, and apparently most guys have a hard time matching my earning power.

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    2. She. And I have a great boyfriend of 3 years, thanks.
      I don't think it's your earning power that's the problem here lol

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    3. @9b: Please, do disclose your "earning power", for which the correct term is "earning potential", unless you are referring to yourself as a business.

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    4. @9b I hope you get raped you fucking cunt

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    5. Fucking christ 9b, no one would want to date you with your shitastic attitude.

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    6. 9e, please, please don't procreate.

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  10. Probably cause they find you just as repulsive as you find them, OP.
    I can't tell you how many butt ugly chicks I've seen around campus complaining that UW doesn't have enough hot guys. If you're going to be vapid like that then you have to at least be hot to back it up. You're not going to find a boyfriend being vapid AND ugly.

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    1. Contrary to your misplaced belief, most women don't care nearly as much about appearance as men do. (Your post seems to confirm that stereotype.)

      I'm not looking for a supermodel, or even someone above average looks. I care about personality and compatibility. But the vast majority of males on this campus are either extremely immature, treat women like sex objects, or are not assertive enough for me to get along with in a LTR.

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    2. Bahaha that's rich 10a. Thanks to feminists, women essentially have complete control of the dating market. If you're a man who is not good looking or extremely wealthy, your best case scenario is to become a beta provider for some slut who rode the cock carousel all through university.

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    3. Almost +1 to 10.b, but I wouldn't say every female is like this so it's a bit too much of a generalization..

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    4. I would disagree with 10.b. From personal experience I would say men have the most power regarding dating as there are plenty of women who simply give it away for very little. Why buy the cow when the milk is free? I think this is was has given rise to the FWB phenomenon as why would a guy need to deal with all the work of a relationship when he can just get sex without any strings attached?

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    5. @10b and 10d: I don't completely agree with 10a's point ( attractiveness (maybe not just physical) matters a lot to both genders) but you guys are proving her second point right. Immature and bitter dudes don't get the girl.

      10b: The "cock carousel"? Really? You're either jealous or spiteful or both. Stop perpetuating double standards and shaming women for being human just like men (anyone disputing that being horny is human nature is past my ability to care about convincing).

      10d: The reason your metaphor seems sound to you is because you see sex as a commodity and don't value other things about women. Its fine, just don't expect anyone to want to be with you long-term is you see women as cows. Being in a relationship isn't just an embargo on other dudes dicks.

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    6. ^In the end, 10 is right. Attractive people will always be in and out of relationships while others will have longer times between. That doesn't change what makes a good long-term relationship though and if anything, being constantly courted may make it harder to find something really meaningful.

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  11. Maybe instead of trying to find a boyfriend in every guy you should think of boys as just friends. Saying that you expected better is really rude. It's implying not just that you think you're better than them but also that you think they should care about meeting your expectations or being your boyfriend. Think of how you would feel if this post said that there's no hot/dateable girls at UW.

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    1. Lol, *if* this post said there are not eligible women? It's smeared all over it in response, and it's far more common to hear the sentiment that there are no women on UW's campus as opposed to no eligible dudes. Fuck, when you even have celebrities like Elon Musk going on about it..

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  12. I've seen so many attractive guys on campus! Too bad I'll never approach one/get approached.

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  13. Stop generalizing boys and girls.

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    1. Yeah, I think this is the bigger relationship hurdle. If you want to meet and keep someone, it'll help to treat them as an individual.

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  14. Hookers and cocaine.

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  15. I know every guy is not like this, but if you notice a guy and like him, and he doesn't make a move.. he may not like you back. BUT he may also be like me:

    1) Girl I like exists

    2) I act friendly / smile a lot and sometimes make extra effort to put in some conversation toward her or with her.

    3) I wait and see if the reception is positive, and if she puts in some effort back.

    4) If this behaviour continues perhaps I'll get her number so I can text her, or talk to her on Facebook more often. If it doesn't continue, (i.e. she doesn't think I am interested because I haven't made a full on move, which is a huge mistake, /or/ she isn't actually interested) I'll move on, but still occasionally give the same friendly happy reception. This is because I don't all of a sudden lose my liking or interest in this person, but I realize she has decided not to reciprocate the same feelings back? (or something along those lines)

    5) I tell her I like her, if we had kept talking and I think it will work out. Sadly most cases do not involve them telling me they like me, which isn't a bad thing if we agree upon it anyways. If this doesn't work out, she was sending stronger signals than I could properly interpret and I was confused by them. In my experience a lot of females accidentally do this, and guys are really bad at translating them!



    So why did I type all of this? I typed it because I want to stress the importance of showing that you are in to another person. The best way is to be friendly and nice. Don't question too much, just show you enjoy being around them. One thing that turns me off girls is when they are a little more pushy with their attitude. It's not an effective way of making some guys get in to you. You need to just be attractive by being friendly, nice, happy, and interesting if possible.. I know that's a bit general, but please question me on any of this if you have any questions.

    tl;dr show people you like them. Don't assume people aren't attracted just because they don't show it. Some people have had too many bad signals in the past and just can't translate them properly!

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    1. +1, love your approach. I'm pretty similar myself. I've found over the last 5years here (Masters now -_-) that while I am completely useless at picking up and getting numbers I almost always succeed what I do pursue because I already know the person and know that there is a connection there.

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  16. I feel you, OP.
    I'm an Asian girl who's 180cm tall...
    Where are all the tall single white guys seriously?!

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    1. How do guys react to that?! I'm 10cm shorter than you and I have short guys (jokingly?) complain to me all the time about my height.

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