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Updated on Friday, January 17

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QUESTION: What on earth do I do about my resting bitch face? As a guy it makes me really unapproachable, and I am not a mean person...

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  1. I dunno, ask Mark Wahlberg, Daniel Craig or Magnus Carlsen. Work hard, work out, and keep being kind. People will learn you're kind, you'll learn not to be afraid that people are afraid of you, and you'll be absolutely unstoppable. And hold your head high, your face is just right dude.

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  2. http://youtu.be/XdCPYy91b_c at 0:54, You're not alone.

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  3. Practice in a mirror, honestly, or on a cam. See how your face looks from different perspectives rather than just head on. Practice smiling or trying a somewhat neutral face while watching yourself. In time it will become a little more natural to do, maybe building up face muscles or something, I don't know, but it seems to work. This is from personal experience.

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    1. Cool idea, Tiberius. I've recording myself practicing giving speeches to no one, using a video camera on a tripod. Sometimes I get self-conscious watching myself talk on playback, and I think this feeling's normal.

      Oh OP, have you ever tried smiling with your eyes? Go on, get in front of the mirror like Tiberius said and give it a go! (and now the obligatory Zep ... "well there's a light in your eyes that keep shining, like a star that can't wait for the night ...")

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  4. Well you're a fucking guy, so you should be doing the approaching anyway. Problem solved.

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    1. implying OP should give a fuck about bitches like you.

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    2. @4a I'm amazed over and over again how people infer the sex of posters

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    3. @4b I am indeed not a woman. Just confirmed.

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  5. NO.. I have the opposite problem.. I smile too much to impress people and I'm trying to adopt the resting bitch face, because smiling actually hurts when it's not genuine.

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    1. Great point. OP likely doesn't realize how good he's got it. Rockin' the "tough guy on the outside, with a heart of gold".

      OP you do realize some girls out there like to have tough-looking nice guys, don't you?

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  6. I suffer from resting bitchy face too, and I'm a girl :( I think it's worse for girls to have it.

    If I don't want to look pissed off, I have to force a smile all the time. It's a lot of effort.

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    1. Same. Makes me highly unapproachable :(

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  7. When internal happiness is reached, one will need not display for it to be known.

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    1. sweet. but you knew that. but thanks for sharing.
      I want to commit what you wrote to memory. And one request: could you post on this site more often please?

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    2. I just thought of what you wrote in a different way and it's even more cool than the first read. I hope I read more of your posts.

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  8. 7.a - Knowing it by memory won't do anything.. try to be it, instead.

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  9. I have the same problem. A friend of one of my office mates saw me out at the mall around Christmas. That friend told my office mate that I looked really upset/angry.

    But I wasn't, I was just browsing for gift ideas / eating in the cafeteria. The natural repose of my face just looks very serious, I guess. There's nothing I can really do to change the neutral position all the muscles in my face take.

    I live with it.

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