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Updated on Wednesday, January 15

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QUESTION: How do you work out a friendship with an ex? Things were going amazing, we were really great, and then all of a sudden he ignores me and says that he doesn't want to talk with me all the time. He really hurt me with some words and then said I hurt him.

How would I fix this when he said he's really angry and i can't talk to him at all. I don't want to leave someone else hurting.

Any advice?

8 comments

  1. i know it's hard to hear, but just move on. you don't deserve to be treated that way, and he doesn't deserve a second chance. you both need to sort out some feelings independently, before ever considering to give friends a go. in my experience, even with the best intentions, being friends with an ex doesn't work.

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  2. Dude, are you me?

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  3. I know it's hard but remember: his feelings are no longer your responsibility. You broke up and no matter how hard it is to see him in pain, especially if you feel responsible for it, it's no longer your job to fix it.

    He needs to learn to get back on his two feet and get through this on his own or else he's always going to depend on you. Plus some people start to learn to use their pain to manipulate their ex, sometimes without even really realising their doing it.

    Let him go, and let his friends help him get through it.

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  4. watch more seinfeld. Jerry and Eliane do it great

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  5. Give him lots of space for a while, to sort out his thoughts without you. In a while (on the order of months), try to reopen communication lines, see how things are going.

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  6. If he's anything like me (or is me I guess) then just leave it alone. Usually, if people don't talk to you its because they don't want to.

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  7. If you broke up with him, there was something about him you didn't like. I don't understand how people can carry on a friendship with an ex. Either they weren't in a real relationship, or else they haven't admitted to each other they've broken up yet.

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  8. Respect his decision to not want to talk to you all the time. Unfortunate, but...the right thing to do.

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