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Updated on Wednesday, January 15

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QUESTION: Ladies, how many kind and romantic gestures does your boyfriend do for you? Is it a deal breaker if he's more self-centred?

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  1. Just because he's not one for romantic gestures doesn't mean he's self centred....

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  2. OP here, not just romantic stuff but little nice things thoughout the day. For example my boyfriend will regularly bring himself a take out meal when he's coming over to see me but brings me nothing with the excuse "Oh it was too busy to get you something". I just would like more random acts of kindness and things to brighten my day but maybe that's asking too much?

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    1. Thats just odd, why do you two not talk about what to have for dinner? Even when I go to a girl's house who is just a friend I ask if she has eaten, and grab take out for both of us if she wants any.

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    2. How long have you been dating? My boyfriend would never do that.

      Not only does he always get me food if he gets food (I pay him back though) but he knows exactly what I eat at different restaurants and what I like and don't like, so he doesn't even need to ask me what I want.

      The only thing is we have been dating 3 years and live together. However even when we were only dating a couple months he wouldn't have just come over to my place and brought food for himself but not other me. He would definitely have texted me to ask if I wanted something. That is kind of weird and inconsiderate for your boyfriend to do.

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    3. +1 to 2a

      Seems really odd to just bring food over to someone's house and not offer to grab them something, regardless of if they're your boyfriend or not

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  3. Hell, my friends if they were coming over wouldn't just bring food for themselves. That's just plain rude. Talk to him about it...

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  4. I agree with all of the above comments... That being said, maybe your guy isn't good at social cues in general. If that's the case, then I'd talk to him. If he's good with people and acting like that then he might be hinting at you that he's not that into you anymore (blowing you off, etc). Hope that's not the case though.

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  5. OP you sound pretty cunty

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    1. Um, no. No she doesn't. I would never even think to do that. Last night I invited my girlfriend over to hang out after she was done work. I know she doesn't get to eat dinner before work so I made food. I had already eaten earlier.

      OP, expect no less than thoughtfulness. If he's not thinking of you then what's the point?

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  6. I would say that I end up doing more of the "romantic" things than my boyfriend does. He does a lot of sweet, thoughtful things that I really appreciate (picking me up from work, grabbing me food, telling me that I look nice, etc.) but he's not a big planner so romantic gestures aren't really his thing. I, on the other hand, really enjoy planning elaborate, romantic things for him to show him that he's appreciated. People just have different styles; that's all.

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  7. He tells me im beautiful all the time, he makes sure I feel safe when we are walking together, he tries to make me smile when I'm down, he opens car doors for me, sometimes he refuses me to pay (even though I tell him in advanced that I want to treat him)...

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  8. I'm not in a relationship anymore, but my ex was never really the romantic type. He generally didn't bring me food whenever he had food, but I never expected him to anyways. He did make me dinner before and offered to treat me when we went out for dinner, but I found that I did more of the romantic gestures overall. My ex didn't exactly compliment me on anything though.

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