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Updated on Monday, January 13

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QUESTION: How does one overcome a bad friendship experience? I had these two best of friends, and things turned so sour, I moved out in the middle of the semester. I no longer acknowledge them, and I feel its better for me to not talk/look at them, mainly cause
I never got closure (they never apologized for the crap they put me through).
But the main problem is, that my other friends are starting to notice I'm changing into a more bitter, bitchy person. I even admit myself that I have complete trust issues with people now, and am constantly paranoid if I let my guard down to people.

5 comments

  1. Well thats a mature way of dealing with things.....

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  2. Um, don't be the kind of person that gets into shit so hard and so personally that you end up having to move out. If you treat things less as a personal affront and try to realize that almost no one cares about the things you care about you will actually find it much better to have friends.

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  3. Sounds like you're the common denominator here. Have a hard look at yourself.

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  4. OP, I empathize with you because I'm going through something similar. While it didn't get to the point where I had to move out, my roommate and I are no longer friends because she didn’t care enough to resolve things with me and the fact that we’re just totally different people. No matter how bad things got between you guys, since you’ve already moved out, the only piece of advice I have for you is to move on, and treat your bad friendship as a lesson. Amazing friendships don’t happen instantaneously. It takes time and mutual effort, but you are going to meet new, amazing people in your life in the future, so don’t let yourself get weighed down by others, especially if they are now insignificant to you.

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  5. You need space and time. Yeah. That's about it. In time, the scars they left on your personality will heal over. There's not too much that can be done to speed this along.

    Though, you could always consider setting up an appointment with a student counsellor. They can help people work through this issues, and be a receptive audience to the feelings you can't express to anyone else.

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