OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Saturday, December 28

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QUESTION: Have you ever had a situation, where there is someone pursuing you, but you just don't know why? i.e. they are just better than you, in every single way. (A lot better looking, better job placements, smarter, more popular, and everything else)

I am so confused. What do they want with me and what game are they playing?

20 comments

  1. Maybe it is not a game and they genuinely want to get to know you better. Take a leap of faith.

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  2. Sometimes they see the good in you that you don't see in yourself.


    ...Or maybe you've got a big dong.

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  3. If you care about the person just be happy and go for it. Someone I was seeing and cared about a lot felt the way you do and broke off the relationship, and trust me, it sucks for the other person when that's the reason things didn't work out.

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  4. or they're insecure and want your attention / love you'll give them cause you don't feel on their level ... ie you feel 'honored' or w.e for being with the type of amazing person they are. They like you giving them that feeling. Probably will not stay with you.

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    1. 4 has some points - you'd be surprised how little people's self-esteem correlates with their public image. Some people are genuinely amazing but have tiny tiny fragile egos inside, and vice versa.

      Don't take that as a factor to not reciprocate though. How insecure someone is has very little bearing on how long the relationship will last and what it will be like - strength of character and compatibility of personality is what determines that. If you like them, go for it - and they'll definitely be overjoyed you did.

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    2. @4 Oh God- I think I just did that. I was with a guy who I thought was below my league and I always thought "he must feel so lucky to be with me". Then, I saw a picture of his ex-girlfriend who I expected to be very below average like him but she was really attractive too and I felt bad that he was used to being with someone way out of his league and I didn't feel special anymore.

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  5. OMG OP I am going through the exact same thing right now. He is way out of my league but seems genuinely interested. I'm confused and wary.

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  6. The other person probably can see something he/she likes about you that you don't realize yourself. Maybe just ask them "what do you like about me" if it's really bothering you.

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  7. Since so many modern women are bitchy and demanding, the only way to ensure a happy relationship is to date down. If your self-evaluation is correct, he probably believes that you are unlikely to reject him. He also probably believes that should you enter a relationship with him, you would not be bitchy and demanding because you would want to hold onto someone so much smarter/better looking/more popular/more successful than you.

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    1. Interesting. As a girl who had little self-esteem, I used to think this way about guys too.

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    2. @7a, I'm not 7 but I believe it might be true. I'm a female though, but I kinda do the same thing.

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  8. OP here, this isn't just a everyday they're really attractive and I don't think I'm in their league kind of deal. 10 out of 10 people will rate this person as a wouldbringhometomommyANDgrandma/10

    WHY JUST WHY?!

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    1. OP are you a guy or a girl?

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    2. Obvs a girl because she sounds irrational

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    3. How the fuck did you use full justification on your text? I thought Blogger was left aligned. HOW JUST HOW?!

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    4. Everything is fully justified except the last sentence. Notice how the posts above that are more than 3 lines long are all full justified except the last line.

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    5. Huh.

      This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. This is a test message. Thisisatestmessagetoseewhethermysecondlineiswonky.

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  9. You could just be over-evaluating their worth as well. I once had a girlfriend who I thought at first was a far out of my league but after getting to really know her I realised she had some pretty serious fundamental flaws. Not to say that your guy does but that you don't know his full story or what his reasons are for being interested in you. As they say, better to have loved and lost etc. etc.

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    1. He probably has a tiny dick.

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