OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Monday, December 16

#5581

QUESTION: Why do so many rental postings mention "females only"? Fear of rape? Fear of dirty males?

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  1. It's not fear of living with guys, it's just a preference.
    A lot of girls don't like to live with guys because they don't want to be constantly held to a certain standard of hygiene/attractiveness.
    When it comes time to skip a shower to crunch for exams or when you have to lay in bed all day crying like a banshee because of period cramps, that's not exactly something you'd wanna be around males for. Especially if they're the kind of guy that would go vent all their frustrations to their friends about shit like that that really they should just be talking to you about.
    Also, some girls look hella different without makeup.

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    1. Why should this be a factor in an apartment where you all have your own 5 room/washroom like in most new buildings? You basically have your own apartment, the only thing is the kitchen that is shared.

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    2. I see, 1. So it's entirely about vanity and lacking maturity to deal with stuff. Makes sense now.

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    3. What the fuck are you two on about..
      1a - no. If you live somewhere where everyone gets their own washroom then good for you, but don't assume everyone else is that lucky.
      1b- it's only about vanity because that's how guys make it. I wouldn't have a problem being my bleeding, shitting natural self if guys didn't get irrationally grossed out by it, tell all their friends about you doing something normal like taking a dump and stop interacting with you when they realize they aren't sexually attracted to you. That's lacking a whole lot more maturity than "not being able to deal with stuff".

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    4. The choices are
      - not give a shit and gross the boys out, probably have them talking shit behind your back about things that they've never had to deal with like long hair in the drain and blood spots
      - be constantly on your toes, always conscious not to do anything unattractive and to hide/clean up everything to do with periods
      - live with other girls or alone and not have to deal with either of these problems

      So yes, wahhh, boo hoo, inequality for boys. But if you were a girl, you can't honestly tell me that you would pick the first one when the third is an option.

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    5. 1b, you're a fucking doorknob. Don't try to act like vanity always comes from a cocky place because 9 times out of 10 it's the complete opposite. People who care too much about their appearance do so because they are insecure. They feel like others think they're ugly and are judging them for it, so they focus more energy than they should on trying to be physically appealing to everyone.
      So when you think you look cool by putting girls down for being looks-oriented, you really are just making yourself look like a big gaping asshole for digging into people who are already insecure and overvalue others' opinions.

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    6. This is retarded. I'm all for looking nice, because I'm a firm believer of dressing for success and all that but to go so far as to fear destroying some perfect illusion you have in front of guys is just plain stupid

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    7. 1b here. Glad to see I can start a riot with an ambiguously-worded comment.

      @1c, if every guy you know "makes it that way", then the guys you know aren't worth your time. Everybody shits. Everyone looks like hell in the morning. Periods are natural. If the guys you know ever want to be in a relationship, they'll have to learn that it's normal and not a big deal. I agree, guys like that are lacking pretty much ANY maturity. But that doesn't mean that's how they should be. It's their problem, not yours.

      @1e, you're putting words in my mouth. I understand people (not just girls, but thanks for making my comment sexist) have insecurities about their looks. I'm not putting anyone down. All I'm saying is that at some point, you need to get over it. Specifically, that girls being worried about guys seeing them naturally is not a reasonable ground for saying "I don't want to live with guys".

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  2. This says it all. Especially the period cramps part and the ability to hang around braless and not feel like a slob.

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  3. And the ability to walk around in your underwear and steal pads and vent about long days and boys/girls (though this last part isn't exclusive to girls).

    God, I love my roommates.

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  4. Renters believe females are cleaner than males (and less likely to damage the property than males). Because of this they are more desirable tenants for picky landlords.

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    1. I've lived with both males and females, and I found that the females were generally messier ...

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    2. ^This. Very true.

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    3. ^ as a female, I can confirm the validity of 4a's statement.

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    4. I think both genders are equally messy, but in terms of noise and partying, I think boys have more parties and are generally louder. Generally.

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    5. Girls are messy, but boys are dirty. Huge difference.

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    6. I was just counting up the total number of roommates I've had which is about 30 and I can't say I've noticed any pattern where guys are messier than girls or vice versa. I think it has much more to do with the household cleanliness standards that an individual is brought up with, regardless of gender.

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    7. 4e +!00 exactly...there are a few clean guys, but majority...no

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  5. I have no problem living with guys but one of my roommates, who is also a good friend, does. It would be inconsiderate of me to sublet my room to a guy, because I knew about her preference when I decided to live with her.

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  6. because they're sexists.

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  7. Yo I wanna walk around in the skimpiest clothes possible at home and unless you're gay, I'm not going to be comfortable living with you.
    And definitely period crap.
    You can say I probably have double standards because I wouldn't mind living with a lesbian. Oh well. I do prefer me some lady-bits occasionally.

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  8. Personally it doesn't matter for me, but when I was looking for a sublet, my roommates strictly requested females only. Two cited that their parents would be uncomfortable with their daughters living with guys for religious reasons, so there's that.

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  9. I am a guy and I have a sister and a mom. They both have periods and you know what I am just used to it. I think most guys know to give girls their space when they are going through periods and not annoy the fuck out of them. I also have an opinion that mixed gender houses are the cleanest. All girls house leads to blood spilled all over toilet seat etc etc but with guys, girls are more conscious. Same with all guy houses, girls can ask guys to do dishes, and sit down and pee. On the other hand if I ask my guy roommate to do it, it will never happen. I have lived with both girls and guys and this is based on my personal experience (and obviously with a limited number of people/sample size).

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    1. Um, I've only ever lived with girls (not because I was being picky, just coincidence) and I don't think I've ever seen someone leave blood all over the toilet. That's inconsiderate no matter what gender you live with.

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  10. Guy here. Y'all must have the maturity level of toddlers. What happened to the equality gender neutral crap that we all live with? This vanity nonsense is bullshit. You must all be those fancy superficial shorts Asian females or something because I've never heard that being a factor.

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    1. hahaahahaahah fuck asians amrite

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  11. Honestly, yeah, if I'm living with a random stranger I definitely would prefer it be a female because of the possibility of rape. There are other reasons as well, but it seems like you are making light of this possibility. Also, a lot of guys get the wrong impression if you're *too* nice to them and it makes things awkward.

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    1. As a male that is pretty insulting

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    2. 11.a So sorry that a woman talking openly about fear of acquaintance rape makes you feel insulted. There there.

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    3. 11a) If it does happen, people would call her an idiot for inviting a strange male to live with her.

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    4. ^Well, if you are honestly afraid of being raped by a potential room mate, then you shouldn't agree to live with them.

      I don't know what kind of asshole guys people know that makes this a legitimate worry, but people need to make better friends.

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    5. ^ People do stupid things when drunk.

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    6. How to avoid acquaintance rape... Assume all male are rapists. Don't go to confined spaces with them.

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  12. Female here (since apparently that matters).
    I've always thought it was for cultural and/or religious morals about females living with unrelated males to whom they're not married.

    I can honestly say I'm a little dissapointed by some of the posts in this thread.

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  13. #12 is right. I think cultural/religious reasons are a main factor...

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  14. Being able to walk around braless or with very little clothes on is HUGE to me. The period stuff on top of that.

    I would be more comfortable living with a lesbian than a guy, which I think stems from the fact that they have the same parts.

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  15. girl hers and I personally prefer living with boys... There's a lot less drama

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    1. To be fair I'm what a friends call a "guy's girl"
      I take a very no-bullshit approach to life and if you mess up own it, don't talk in circles trying to justify the situation..

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    2. Ugh, I hate the tired old bullshit about women causing more drama then men. It really is something when even women tear down other women in general. Like that doesn't happen often enough. All it tells me is that you attract "drama", not just all those other bitches.

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  16. I poo poo my pants

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  17. Guy, three female roommates..

    You're all strange. Nothing wrong with our situation that I can tell. They walk around braless anyway, who cares. They know I'm not going to make it awkward and honestly, why not put up an ad WITHOUT the "only female" rule, and then "interview" the prospective residents. That way you can both make a decision and not be silly about it.

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  18. Where are the feminists for the post????

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    1. I am a feminist and I have think it is horrible to assume that male roommates are going to harass you.

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    2. As I guy, I appreciate your statement 18a. I'm not sure what kind of company those people keep who are worried about harassment by their male roommates. It's really off-putting to think that there exists even a small group of women who are constantly worried about this occurring. That's not to say that sexual harassment by roommates or friends or family never occurs, but it is worrisome that so many feel that it is an imminent threat. Maybe it represents more a culture of anxiety than one of gender inequality.

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  19. I've seen a few places where one of the girl's parents own the place and don't want their daughter living with boys.

    I know my dad had "issues" with me living with guys (even in residence, he hated that I wasn't in an 'all-girls' residence), not because of religious or cultural reasons, but because he's ridiculous, over-protective and sexist.

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