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Updated on Saturday, December 14

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QUESTION: So how would you guys feel about a FWB relationship but with no sex? Everything else is on the table, but just no penetration.

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  1. soo basically cuddling? i would like that :) love it too

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    1. Just cuddling will cause diminishing returns. A guy can only handle so much cuddling with no sex

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  2. If it's actually *everything* but penetration - stupid.
    If it's just cuddling, better but I wouldn't agree to that.

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    1. Booo RL BOOOO no one likes you

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  3. I had it during summer. Whenever we go out, at the end it led to "things". It will eventually lead to sex, no matter how much you try to keep penetration away.

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  4. I had a relationship such as this over the summer. Only there wasn't even cuddling, or hand holding... or physical contact of any kind. He talked and I listened... then there was a free dinner in it for me.

    So basically dinner for therapy, does that count FWB? I got the benefit of free food, he got a friend?

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    1. Isn't that called being friends?

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    2. Friendship is a two way street. There's a give and a take, built on mutual respect, not always the case

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    3. Haha, you used him for free food when he wanted a friend?

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    4. He used me for therapy and the off chance he may get laid. I tend to let people talk about themselves, since most people do like talking about themselves. Friendship for me happens when I can tell you about myself, for a lot of people that are "friends" with me, they know next to nothing about me, which I'm completely fine with, need to know.

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    5. Is the off chance he may get laid part an assumption about the dude or is that actually what he tried doing? Been there done that though; it's effective to get laid as scummy as it is.

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    6. tbh i don't know that much, lost interest after the 2nd meeting of said individual complaining about his ex/life/work

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  5. I know people that do that. It's not just cuddling, it's basically getting to third base, oral is definitely game ...

    I would have been ok with that back when I was a virgin, but now I see no point.

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  6. I wouldn't mind. I love foreplay just as much as sex. It would be enjoyable. Sign me up...it's a sweet deal.

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    1. No way two people can just four play without sex happening..

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    2. they can five play too

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    3. I'd be down for it. Sex itself doesn't last very long for me, so most of the enjoyment comes from the foreplay anyway.

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  7. only girls are down for this LOL

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  8. It was making out, then plenty of handjobs that lasted 30mins or more. Not so long after he tried to put it in because he couldn't hold himself back.

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  9. It sounds like a good idea in theory or if you're not good at sex. No thanks for me. I'm either just a friend or we're doing the sideways salsa to its fullest. All this holding back/restrictions/just the tip shit is probably why people aren't good in bed. No one ever got good at something by holding back.

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    1. You could at least TRY to conceal your insecurities about your own shortcomings in the bedroom...

      As a matter of fact, if you jump right from "just friends" to "doing the sideways salsa," your girl is probably not nearly as satisfied as you think. Foreplay is essential to good sex.

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    2. +1
      It's especially important for women.

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    3. 10 here: I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and say my metaphor was not as clear as it could have been. "Sideways salsa" was meant to include all of sex, not the parts for which you are sideways. I do indeed know the importance of foreplay, but only doing foreplay for a long time doesn't have anything to do with satisfaction in the end.

      I don't see where you found insecurities in there btw. All I said was either have sex or don't with someone. If you're not into me enough to go all the way then I don't want any of it (since its usually obligation, pity, or I'm bored sex). This statement assumes that you are in a fwb arrangement (as per the OP), in a relationship take your time.

      ugh, so many caveats and explanations.

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