Updated on Saturday, December 7
QUESTION: How do you create the "moment" for the first time having sex with your boyfriend? I'm a virgin and my boyfriend knows that I'm inexperienced, but I'm ready and I want to have sex with him. How do I make this happen without straight up saying it? I'm not 100% sure, but I'm pretty sure he's a virgin as well if that makes a difference.
Just let it happen as you're fooling around. You don't need to officially agree on it beforehand (although you should make sure there's a condom around).
ReplyDeleteWithout saying it straight up?
ReplyDeleteRip your shirt off, then attack. Don't say anything, just go for it.
^ I realized that, that sounded like rape. So set the mood before you decide that you wanna do it. If he's also a virgin. Make sure he's ready for it and wants to do it as well.
DeleteOr else you'll get the sweet and religious ones that end up saying that they want to save it for marriage.
Yeah I always thought it'd be like Inception and music would play from "deeper levels" to let me know to trigger the kick. It certainly wasn't like that at all, just gotta let it happen organically in the heat of the moment. If your bf is a bit oblivious, be more bold than you normally are. If he always takes his pants off, take them off for him, if he usually grabs your breasts, place his hands on them for you, etc. etc. He should hear the music playing and know to initiate/help initiate the kick.
ReplyDeleteOr if you're like me be told by a girl that you used to date that was no longer a virgin "You're too pussy to have sex with me, you were always stiff."
Showed her something stiff alright.
under the sheets, make out, slowly lose clothing, fuck, and then sleep.
ReplyDeleteDon't plan anything. Do it in the moment. While you're hooking up, just ask if he wants to. If he says yes, do it. If he says no, don't. Talk about how it was after.
ReplyDeleteAll about the foreplay ;)
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DeleteThee advice is pretty good, but *do* make sure that you're both ready first. Make sure you both know that it is what you both want.
ReplyDeleteDon't overthink it ... while you're making out or whatever, stop for 5 seconds and ask him if he wants to and if it's a yes then just keep going. . If it's a no, well talk about it and understand what he wants
ReplyDeleteWhile you're making out ask if he has a condom, should be a good hint.
ReplyDeleteLemme warm you up for him.
ReplyDeletetry like THIS
ReplyDeleteSlightly concerned that you're ready to lose your virginity to this guy but you're not able to talk to him to know if he's a virgin.
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Delete12 is completely right. Also, as John Green would say: USE YOUR WORDS. Best relationship advice there is.
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