Updated on Thursday, December 5
QUESTION: How many people have you been in a long-term relationship with? State age, gender, and race please. Wondering because I'm an Asian girl and I've noticed that many of my Asian friends have become engaged to the first person they've seriously dated, but my friends of other races think this is weird.
girl 6 and really?! Maybe it is because I am still young. 18 (japanese)
ReplyDeleteYou're 18, and been in 6 LONG TERM relationships?
Delete^She's 18. She doesn't understand the difference between an infatuation run of the mill relationship and an actual real long-term one yet.
DeleteGive her time. She is but a young padawan.
Lol, 1.a, that's what I thought too. It's literally impossible, but such is youth I guess..
DeleteNot sure what 1b even said that was remotely dickish. Put it nicer than I would have.
Delete1.e then fuck you too! Who are you to say whether those relationships count as an 'actual real long-term one.'
DeleteOh right, according to the most recent issue of Amer. Relationsh. J. Monthly an 18 year old with six long term relationships spent on average 2/3rds of a year in those relationships if she has been dating since 14. Everybody knows that 2/3 is the ratio that characterizes infatuation run of the mill relationships. She has to break at least 6/5 for it to count.
^You tried 1f, but you failed. You did your best, but it wasn't quite good enough...
DeleteWHEN YOU TRY YOUR BEST BUT YOU DON'T SUCCEEDDDD
WHEN U GET WHAT YOU WANT BUT NOT WHAT YOU NEED
WHEN YOU FEEL SO TIRED, BUT YOU CAN'T SLEEP
STUCK IN REVERSEEEEE...
blah blah blah AND I WILL TRY, TO FIX YOU.
1a here. Longer than 4 months is long term longest being one year. Sorry for being a young duck
Delete^LIGHTS WILL GUIIDDEEE YOU HOME...
DeleteFemale and just the one. Never imagined I'd be one of those people, but he happened to be a keeper :)
ReplyDeleteJust realized I never left my race. South Asian.
Delete0 long-term relationships
ReplyDelete18, female, white
Same here :')
DeleteFemale, one. 20. Been dating the boyfriend for 3 years. White.
ReplyDeleteFemale. 2. 20. Asian.
ReplyDeleteFemale, two, 22. Indian
ReplyDeleteBeen dating current boyfriend for about a year and four months. Dated first high school boyfriend for 2 years.
1 ongoing long term relationship.
ReplyDeleteFemale Asian.
19 white F.
ReplyDeleteOnly been in one long-term relationship, but it's been 3 years now and I love him even more all the time. (:
3 long term relationships (shortest one is the current one, 9 months and going)
ReplyDelete22 Asian female
4 serious relationships.
ReplyDelete23, brown female.
marrying the first one is ridiculous.
3, 25, Asian, male.
ReplyDeleteAsian male, 20
ReplyDelete0 serious relationships
It's ridiculous to think marrying in the first LTR is weird. I suppose the argument is that you have nothing to judge against, so how would you know if you should settle. But what's the alternative: date someone else for a long time, THEN have the perspective to realize the first one was fine, then break off the new one to go back to the old, to the person you dumped a year ago because you needed perspective? Ludicrous.
ReplyDeleteMale, 26, white, no LTRs.
Yup, I think it's ridiculous and it's hard not to start fuming when a friend of mine asks me this about my relationship. I only love my boyfriend more after 4 years, and I know he feels the same. I couldn't be happier and it just worked out that way.
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DeleteSouth Asian male, no relationships of any kind.
ReplyDelete20 years old
DeleteMiddle Eastern male, 21, 3.5 years. Second relationship. My first one lasted 2 years.
ReplyDeleteWhite Female, 21, and two.
ReplyDeleteMy current boyfriend is also white and 21 and this is his 3rd (although the first was in middle school so it's up for debate whether that counts).
All my roommates are white, my age, and have one or two long term relationships in their past.
One long term relationship. One relationship total. I have been with my girlfriend for five years. We love each other very much, and I plan on marrying her as soon as I have a job after graduating to make us a home.
ReplyDeleteIf what you have is good, do not consider leaving it to "test the waters." What will you do if you realise that what you had was amazing? It has been irreparably ruined. It is entirely possible, after that amount of time, that you have grown alongside them into a person who is even more well-matched to the other than was initially the case.
Oh, forgot.
DeleteLilly-white male, 22
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DeleteI'm currently in my second long term relationship. I dated a guy in high school for 3 years, broke up just before entering university. We thought we were going to get married and all that. Currently have been dating my bf from uni for about a year and a half. The expectations are more relaxed.
ReplyDeleteWhite, F, 20.
White, M, 21.
ReplyDeleteJust recently got out of first long term relationship, 5 years. I think staying with your first LTR is reasonable depending on when you meet them and when you want get married.
y'd you break up?
DeleteI'm always so curious as to what happens in relationships that last so long and then fall apart.
Brown, F, 21
ReplyDeleteone long term relationship. Broke up after 4 years.
19 year old European female.
ReplyDeleteBeen in a relationship with the same guy for 3 years. It is both our first and only relationship. He is not white.
Male, 23 next week. Caucasian. (Although I think you want nationality, not race, in which case Russian)
ReplyDeleteDepends on your definition of LTR.
Greater than a year - 0
Greater than 6 months - 1
Overall, ~3 casuals, ~4 "normal", ~2 or so that are hard to classify.
22, female, white. Two LTR's, both over 2 years in length, one was long-distance for a large part. Being single is nice.
ReplyDelete23, south asian female. I'm in my first LTR and we've been together for 3.5 years so far. We're definitely ready to get married.
ReplyDeleteHoly crap there's a lot of girls on this site
ReplyDeleteAside from that comment, I'm a white male, 21, born and raised in Southern Ontario. Been in two short relationships but nothing longer than half a year (chicks turned out to be weird).
DeleteIf you meet the right person I don't see why marriage after one relationship should be weird. I have a few friends who have been in only one relationship and they are engaged/married. I'm the type of guy who prefers long term relationships.
2 people. I'm a 22 year-old middle eastern female (The first guy was also middle-eastern, we dated for about 1.5 years). My current bf is Russian, we've been together for over 4 years.
ReplyDeleteAs of this moment, I wouldn't want to be engaged until we both graduate and work for a bit. I think it's important that we start the next chapter of our lives together before making any bigger commitments. That being said, I never thought that my love to a person can just keep growing more and more with time instead of dying off. I've never been happier and I want to end up with him, no question!
He'll never marry you.
DeleteReally 26.a? Is that really necessary?
Delete26.a: I have nothing constructive to say so I'll just make an ass of myself
hahaha it's ok 26.b <3
Delete@ 26.a: as if you know troll!! I don't even know, we talked about it and we both want to get married but who knows? Anything could happen, I just really hope we end up together =)
White, M, 21. I am in my first LTR. We've been going for about a year and two months.
ReplyDeleteAsian, F, 22. Been with the first LT boyfriend for 4.5 years, different universities.
ReplyDeletewhite girl 21 yo dating arab guy for 2 years, first LTR for me but not him. we will definitely need lots more time together before we think about marriage.
ReplyDeleteLOL did he offer you any oil?
Deleteso I think 26.a and 29.a is the same person.
DeleteFemale, 20, white here. and I feel like I'm just entering my 3rd.
ReplyDeleteDated one guy (white) in high school for a little over 2 years.
Dated one guy (Asian) for about 2 years. I was his first girlfriend and he had the intent of marrying me... the feeling was not mutual.
Now I'm with another Asian guy for 7~ months and things are going well. I don't think he intends on marrying me, but whatever.
I'm female, white and 19.
ReplyDeleteI've only been in one long term relationship, and it's still going. He's the same age and Asian.
I dont think it's ridiculous if you happen to meet each other at the right time and place. I think it's crazy if the relationship has survived throughout high school and university, but if you met your first S/O in university, then that's not too difficult to imagine.
ReplyDelete20 year old white girl. Had one LTR in high school, lasted just under 2.5 years. Dated a guy in university for about 4 months? I think but I wouldn't really consider that long term.
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